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24/7 Helpline
1300 139 313

If you are pregnant

When you contact a pregnancy help centre, you will meet people who want to support & help you. They offer compassionate support and accurate information on all three of your options: abortion, adoption, and parenting. You don’t have to face this alone.

We want you to know –

  • You don’t have to make this decision alone
  • It’s normal to feel everything you’ve been feeling, the good and the bad feelings
  • It’s ok to feel sad that things won’t ever be quite the same, but that doesn’t mean your life can’t be good
  • This doesn’t define who you are as a person
  • There are people who will help you and care about you
  • This may change your future, but it doesn’t have to limit it
  • No matter what you decide – you have value and you are loved
We’re here for you.
 
You can look to see if there is a pregnancy help centre near you to go and talk to someone in person.
 
You can call the 24/7 Helpline 1300 139 313 to speak with someone right now or you can text the Option Line for 24/7 help using the chat feature. 
 
We understand an unexpected pregnancy can feel overwhelming. 

There are many different feelings and thoughts which may arise when you find out you are pregnant. These can include:

  • Shock and disbelief
  • Feeling too young or old to be a parent
  • Scared to tell your boyfriend/partner and your parents that you are pregnant
  • Not having a job or enough money to support yourself and a child
  • Being single and feeling unsupported
  • Worried about what your friends/peers may say
  • Feeling pressure from your partner, a friend or a family member to make a particular decision
  • Feeling concerned that you won't be able to continue your studies

If you can identify with any of these points, it's important to remember you are not alone in your thoughts or feelings. It is essential to take your time and explore all options, become fully informed so that you can feel confident in your own decision making. You have time to work out what you really want.

The choice to continue or not continue your pregnancy belongs to you and no-one can make this decision for you. 

What are my options?

You have 3 options regarding the outcome of your pregnancy:

  1. continue with your pregnancy and parent the child
  2. continue with your pregnancy and place your child up for adoption
  3. end your pregnancy through termination.

Each of these options has its challenges and short and long term difficulties. It is important to get all the information you need to make an informed decision that's 100% right for you. Knowing how and where to access support will also help you with making and dealing with your decision.

1. Continue your pregnancy and parent the child.

Choosing to be a parent is a big decision and people often don’t feel fully prepared for it, even when the pregnancy was planned.

There are many ways in which you can be assisted with parenting your child, whether alone or with a partner. Identifying what your needs may be, practically and emotionally, is the first step in determining how they might be met.

It is important to understand the financial assistance for which you may be eligible as well as other supportive services particular to your community that may be available. These could include ante natal classes, new mums’ support groups, and pregnancy support services. The 24/7 pregnancy help line or pregnancy centre closest to you will be able to put you in touch with your local community support.

2. Continue your pregnancy and place the child for adoption

There are hundreds of people waiting to adopt children in Australia but very few children are placed for adoption. In 2004-2005, 585 babies were adopted by families in Australia. 434 of these adoptions were of children from overseas, 86 by ‘known’ people – ie within families - and only 65 were babies relinquished for adoption outside their own family.

Adoption is quite a different prospect from what it was years ago, with many people now choosing an open arrangement whereby they are able to keep in touch with adoptive parents, have access to information about their child and in some cases even see their child after adoption.

For adoption information in your state please view the adoption section.

3. End your pregnancy through termination

Abortion is a decision made by many women in Australia every year. Unfortunately a growing number of these women now say that this decision was made ‘because they felt they had no other choice’. There are also large numbers of women who feel their decision was not a fully informed one and that they wish they had had more information about how abortion would /could impact them.

It is important that you feel in control of such a major decision and do not allow anyone to push you into making a choice you may not truly want. Pregnancy help centres exist to provide a safe environment for you to make a pregnancy decision that is fully informed, evidence-based, consistent with your belief system, and free from external influence.

We also have a ‘Questions to Ask’ Fact Sheet on the website that gives you a list of important questions to ask an abortion provider before you consent to any procedure.

Related information


Reach Out

24/7 Helpline
1300 139 313

 

info@pregnancyhelpaustralia.org.au